Four Agreements Worth Making
I just finished reading a wonderful, quick-read book entitled, “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. When I finished the book I was struck by the power that these basic “tenets” could have in my life – both personally and professionally. Now all I have to do is practice them on a daily basis – pretty straight forward but not easy……….
So what are these four agreements you might ask?
Be impeccable with your word - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth.
My question for you is, How often do you find yourself being your own worst critic and thereby using your word against yourself? When we do so, it shows up in the way we interact with others – they pay the prices of us not living this agreement to its full extent.
Don’t take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Rather than being “tagged” by what others say and do and reacting emotionally, maintain your personal power and be the example for others to follow. Our workplaces and families are in need of such leadership.
Don’t make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
When we make assumptions, we are in a way “gambling” with our relationships that we have spent time and energy to cultivate. Stop “rolling the dice” with your esteemed colleagues, co-workers, friends and family and just keep things simple by being clear and seeking clarification when in doubt.
Always do your best - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
It’s not about having to be the best in everything we do – especially when “best” is defined by people, society and institutions….Rather being and doing our best at any given moment is all we can ask of ourselves – and of others in our life. Living this agreement is dependent on being truly honest with ourselves about what our best is.