Three Ways Coaching Can Improve Your Life
As a co-active coach, I know that deep, lasting, affective change is primarily about:
1.) The bedrock of my coaching lies with me holding you as naturally creative, resourceful and whole - completely capable of finding your own answers to whatever challenges you face. My job is to ask powerful questions, listen and empower to elicit the skills and creativity you, as my client, already posses, rather than instruct or advise.
2.) I build on cornerstones that combine to form a strong foundation for my clients. I hold that:
• The agenda comes from you, the client.
• As your coach, I dance in the moment - able to change course as you discover new possibilities or awareness within each moment.
• My co-active coaching addresses your whole life.
What is different about a co-active coaching conversation? In my view, coaching is not about solving problems, although problems will be solved. It’s not about primarily improving performance although performance will be improved, goals will be attained and results will be achieved. It’s chiefly about discovery, awareness, and choice. It is a way of effectively empowering people to find their own answers, encouraging and supporting them on the path as they continue to make important choices.
My ongoing relationship with you exists only to address your agenda - and so, your agenda is at the center of my coaching. There are two ways to think about this agenda. The first is at the level of the big picture for your life. Every day, people make dozens, even hundreds of decisions to do or not to do certain things. The choices we make during the day, no matter how trivial they may seem, contribute to creating a life that is more (or less) fulfilling. The decisions we make move us toward or away from better balance in our lives. The choices contribute to a more effective life process or to a process that is less effective. And so, at one level, your agenda is wrapped in these core principles of fulfillment, balance and process. They are principles because they are fundamental to the liveliness of your life. In the same way that oxygen, fuel, and heat are necessary for fire, these three principles combine to create an ignited life. In the Co-Active Model I use, I think of this as the Big “A” agenda.
The second way to look your agenda is through specific issues that you bring to your coaching sessions. My clients bring all sorts of agenda items to their coaching, and yet, whatever the specific issue, there is a way to link it to a more fulfilling life, a life with more balance, or better process. I think of this as the little “a” agenda.
3.) I, as a coach, am a change agent. Goals and plans, new practices, new benchmarks, achievements of every kind are all part of my client’s ongoing work, facilitated by my interaction. I serve your higher purpose. By collectively aiming for your higher purpose, the means for transformative change and, by extension, change within your families and organizations is created. These ripples of change move out into the world, creating a new edge never seen before - to benefit you and the lives you touch.