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Greetings!
It
has been a few months since you've heard from us via our
newsletter. We've actually heard from some of you that
you miss us! We have been busy and one of the new
developments is that we have added a new partner to our
business. Her name is Susan Arnold.
Susan is a gifted business and personal performance coach who has
already established her own coaching practice. By teaming
with Bill and I at Excellerate Solutions, we
now can address the needs of larger corporate clients as well as our
many smaller business clients. You can read more about
Susan by visiting our website under About.
Change in our
business is something we've chosen as a path to further our work to
help more people achieve their potential. Many of us find that
change is something that happens to us, certainly not something we
would choose. In this issue we feature the first article by our
new partner, Susan, who reviews her approach to coaching.
We also discuss change and how to navigate the changes in your life,
whether they're chosen or unexpectedly happen to you.
We welcome your feedback or suggestions. If
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Three
Ways My Coaching Will Improve Your Life
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 As
a co-active coach, I know that deep, lasting, affective change is
primarily about:
- Discovery
- Awareness
- Choice
1.) The bedrock of my coaching lies with me holding you
as naturally
creative, resourceful and whole - completely capable
of finding your own answers to whatever challenges you face. My
job is to ask powerful questions, listen and empower to elicit the
skills and creativity you already possess, rather than instruct or
advise.
2.) I build on
cornerstones that combine to form a strong foundation for my clients.
I hold that:
- The
agenda comes from you, the client.
- As
your coach, I dance in the moment - able to change course as you
discover new possibilities or awareness within each moment.
- My
co-active coaching addresses your whole life -
both personally and professionally.
What is different about a co-active
coaching conversation? In my view,
coaching is not about solving problems, although problems will be
solved. It's not about primarily improving performance although
performance will be improved, goals will be attained and results will
be achieved. It's chiefly about discovery, awareness, and
choice. It is a way of effectively empowering people to find their own answers,
encouraging and supporting them on the path as they continue to make
important choices.
My ongoing
relationship with you exists only to address your agenda
- and so, your agenda is at the center of my coaching. There
are two ways to think about this agenda. The first is at the
level of the
big picture for your life. Every day, people
make dozens, even hundreds of decisions to do or not to do certain
things. The choices we make during the day, no matter how
trivial they may seem, contribute to creating
a life that is more (or less) fulfilling. The decisions we make
move us toward or away from better balance in our lives. The
choices contribute to a more effective life process or to a process
that is less effective. And so, at one level, your agenda is
wrapped in these core principles of fulfillment, balance and
process. They are principles because they are fundamental to
the liveliness
of your life. In the same way that oxygen,
fuel, and heat are necessary for fire, these three principles combine
to create an ignited life. In the Co-Active Model I use, I think of
this as the Big "A" agenda.
The second way to look at your agenda is through specific issues that
you bring to your coaching sessions. My clients bring all sorts
of agenda items to their coaching, and yet, whatever the specific
issue, there is a way to link it to a more fulfilling life, a life
more balanced, or better process. I think of this as the little
"a" agenda.
3.) I, as a
coach, am a change agent. Goals and plans, new
practices, new benchmarks, achievements of every kind are all part of
my client's ongoing work, facilitated by my interaction. I serve your higher purpose.
By collectively aiming for your higher purpose, the means for
transformative change and, by extension, change within your families
and organizations is created. These ripples of change move out
into the world, creating a new edge never seen before - to benefit
you and the lives you touch.
Copyright protected, all rights reserved worldwide. ©2011
Susan Arnold - Excellerate Solutions,
Inc.
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Change:
Something Lost, Something Gained
 Let's
face it, change
is simply a fact of life that all of us deal with in one way or
another. Boiling it down, there are two major types of change:
1) "voluntary"
change which we know about and freely choose, and 2) "involuntary"
change that is out of our control and often times comes into our
lives at the worst possible moment. "Voluntary"
change may include such things as: starting a business, changing
jobs/companies, going back to school, making a career change,
starting or ending a relationship, getting married, having children,
retiring, getting healthy, etc. "Involuntary" change
can include: death of a loved one, new job responsibilities, an
accident, grand children, new technologies, a large inheritance,
illness, the economy, company reorganizations, etc.
Regardless of the type of change, there are always losses and gains
associated with the change event. Depending on the degree or
significance of the change, the losses and gains may be large or
small. Losses can include: confidence, sense of security, life
direction, self respect, career, co-workers, a job, loved ones,
health, independence, etc. Gains can be: new beginnings, hope,
dignity, opportunities for growth, learning new skills, freedom,
greater income potential, etc.
What's most important in managing and coping with change is to
authentically deal with the losses and quickly start embracing the
future gains. I recommend the following 4 step process to help
you productively navigate the voluntary and involuntary changes in
your life.
1.
Acknowledge, experience and accept the losses.
Being authentic and true to yourself, fully express the emotions,
feelings, thoughts and physical impact the change is having on you
and others in your life. Given the nature of the change and
severity of the losses, you may go into denial, become resistant,
experience fear, frustration, anger, sadness, guilt, etc.
Therefore it is critical that you seek out the appropriate support
you need.
2.
Get Support
You don't have to work through change on your own. Stress often
goes hand-in-hand with change so identifying the right resources up
front is important. Resources may include friends, family, a
variety of counselors, psychologist, physicians, coaches, etc.
Don't under estimate the power and benefit of having a
"team" to support you during this trying time.
3.
Clearly identify and connect with the gains.
Getting emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically connected
to the future gains/benefits of the change is essential to moving
forward. Once again, having others to support you in
brainstorming possibilities, exploring the options, and developing
plans can accelerate this step of the process.
4.
Getting into action.
Identifying specific and measurable goals along with detailed action
plans is often the best step one can take in working through
change. Sharing your goals and plans with others and requesting
the proper degree of accountability is highly recommended.
So, whether you freely choose to make a change in your life or
something or someone places unexpected change upon you, it is your
attitude and perspective that is the key to your response to
change. You see, where there is loss there is always the
possibility of gain - the challenge is finding and embracing
it. If you are currently working through change in your
professional or personal life, in your business or at home and need
support, please give us a call to see if coaching is right for
you.
Copyright
protected, all rights reserved worldwide. ©2011
Bill Spreitzer - Excellerate Solutions, Inc.
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January 2011
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Motivational Quotes
"I
never cease to be amazed at the power of the coaching process to draw
out the skills or talent that was previously hidden within an
individual, and which invariably finds a way to solve a problem
previously thought unsolvable. "
John Russell, Managing Director,
Harley-Davidson Europe Ltd.
"Who exactly seeks out a coach? Winners
who want even more out of life." Chicago Tribune
"It's not what happens to you, but how
you react to it that matters." Epictetus
"Things do not change, we change."
Henry David Thoreau
"Change your thoughts and change your
world."
Norman Vincent Peal
"When we are no longer able to change a
situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."
Victor Frankl
"Change is inevitable - except from a
vending machine."
Robert C. Gallagher
"Change always comes bearing
gifts."
Price Pritchett
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